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How will you recover from divorce?

A divorce is sure to shake your life up in many ways. Even if it's for the best, you still have to consider the impact it will have and what you can do to stabilize your life in the future.

There is no right or wrong way to recover from divorce, but here are some tips for putting you on the right track:

  • Take time to mourn: It's okay if you're still broken up about your divorce. Take time every day to mourn, as this will help you make a faster recovery.
  • Talk to others: Don't cut yourself off from the important people in your life. Your family, friends and co-workers are more than willing to help you through this difficult time.
  • Start fresh: Get involved with a hobby you've been thinking about. Travel more often. Look for a new job that provides a greater sense of purpose. You're in a perfect position to start fresh, so don't hesitate to take advantage.
  • Don't rush back into a relationship: There's nothing wrong with remaining single for an extended period of time. Remember, just because you're single doesn't mean you have to be alone.

Ease the tension with these co-parenting tips

It doesn't matter if you recently divorced or your marriage has been in the past for many years, co-parenting may be a big part of your life.

Despite your best intentions, there are times when you won't agree with your ex-spouse in regards to how to raise your children.

Are you concerned about driving in rush hour traffic?

For many people, driving in rush-hour traffic is a big part of their lives. It's not something you want to do, but you may face this situation two or more times a day.

If you have safety concerns, here are some tips to follow:

  • Don't rush: It's difficult enough to stay safe in rush-hour traffic, so you don't want to complicate your situation by rushing. This can lead to speeding and taking risks that put your safety in jeopardy.
  • Choose a different route: Even if it takes longer, a different route may allow you to avoid congestion and the risks associated with it. Experiment with several routes to and from your destination.
  • Stay in your lane: Every time you switch lanes, you run the risk of causing an accident. While other drivers may jump around with hopes of saving a few minutes, you should choose your lane and stay there until it's time to make your next move.
  • Follow with caution: Even in slow-moving traffic, you don't want to follow the vehicle in front of yours too closely. The more room you leave, the more time you have to stop.

Ways to prepare your finances for divorce

When divorce becomes inevitable, it's important to turn some of your attention to your current financial situation. By doing this early in the process, you're can help avoid trouble during and after your divorce.

Here are some of the best ways to prepare your finances for divorce:

  • Review your income and expenses: How much income can you expect to earn each month after your divorce? What will your expenses be? With these numbers in mind, it's much easier to appropriately prepare for the future.
  • Create a budget: Once you understand your income and expenses, create a budget to help you stay on track. This should include all the expenses you'll be responsible for after divorce.
  • Gather documentation: You'll need to provide various types of financial documentation throughout the divorce process. This can include bank, retirement account, credit card and investment account statements as well as pay stubs, tax returns and a list of debts and assets you brought into the marriage.
  • Don't make a big purchase: Now's not the best time to buy something like a vehicle or home or to take a European vacation. There's plenty of time to do this after your divorce is final. Jumping the gun will only complicate matters.

Take these steps to ask your spouse for a divorce

It's hard to come to grips with the fact that your marriage is heading toward divorce, but if you find yourself in this situation there's no point in delaying the inevitable.

If you've tried everything and realize that divorce is the best solution, here are some steps you can take when discussing your feelings with your spouse:

  • Prepare yourself. Asking for a divorce is difficult, so you must prepare yourself for every possible reaction.
  • Choose the right time and place. It's best to leave plenty of time in your schedule for this conversation. Also, asking for a divorce in private is the right approach, as long as you don't have any concerns about your safety.
  • Don't go back. Your spouse may ask you to reconsider, but if you're 100 percent sure that you want to divorce it's critical to stand your ground.
  • Don't discuss the details. This isn't the best time to talk about property and debt division, child custody, child support and alimony. All of these details can be discussed in the future.
  • Keep calm. Emotions are sure to run high during this conversation, so do your part in keeping things calm. Even if your spouse gets upset or angry, you shouldn't follow suit.

Child custody, the holidays and avoiding an argument

Even though the holiday season is still a couple of months away, there's no better time than now to turn your attention to co-parenting during this time of the year.

It doesn't matter if you have physical custody of your children or visitation rights, you must work closely with your ex-spouse to ensure an enjoyable holiday season for all.

Tips for putting your kids first during divorce

A divorce is never easy. When you took your vows with your spouse, you did not imagine yourself ending up here. You are likely feeling a whirlwind of emotions, including anger, resentment, anxiety and grief. During this tumultuous time, it can be difficult for you and your spouse to put aside your differences for what is best for your children.

But the goal of Michigan's child custody laws is to do what is in the best interests of the children. While it may be tricky to wade through all the emotions and legalities to put your kids first, here are a few points to guide you toward a child-centered divorce.

Mother and son killed in traffic accident outside Detroit

The greatest fear of people dedicated to their families is the possibility of their loss. We end up spending much of our lives working toward the safety and security of our spouses, children and relatives. This dedication makes loss especially difficult to manage.

Deaths that occur before their time, as in car accidents and other sudden traumatic events, may involve other people but not necessarily be their fault. When it comes to deaths that could have been avoided without the malicious intent, recklessness or negligence of others may be subject to criminal penalties or claims in civil court.

Michigan divorce means split of lottery fortune

Divorce can be a nasty emotional scar, even when partners have more or less agreed they have had enough. The worst effect of the end of a marriage often is visited on the children, who now have to adapt to a new life with scheduled time between homes. If a couple has no children, the aspect that is most difficult is a fair split of assets and finances.

Young couples with little to share may not think this matters, but you never know when the stakes could be raised. A couple going through a divorce in Michigan just ended up splitting more than $30 million after the husband won the windfall in the state lottery.

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