You sit down with your kids and break the news: You and your spouse have decided to get a divorce. You've been thinking it over for months, and you've both been talking about it. The decision is firm.
While it's not new news to you, it's absolutely breaking news to the kids. You've carefully considered all of your options, but the kids are going to have questions. Some of the most common ones are:
1. Where will everyone live?
Kids need to know where you and your spouse will live and where they'll live. They need that stability and can feel very confused about suddenly not having the home life they've known for years.
2. Do they need to go to different schools?
Moving out of the house is one thing, but kids may also be very concerned about losing their friends and their schools. Remember, they spend all day at school. It's a huge part of their lives, and it's jarring to suddenly lose all of their friends and become the "new kids" at a different school.
3. Can they tell people?
Divorce is very personal, but it also impacts a lot of people. Who can they tell? Who else already knows?
4. Is it their fault?
Your kids may be very worried that they somehow caused the divorce. They may think you're angry with them. Do everything you can to assure them that it's not their fault and you still love them.
These questions -- and their answers -- can be complex and challenging. Make sure you keep the children's concerns in mind when crafting a parenting plan and a child custody agreement.
Source: The Spruce, "24 Questions Kids Ask Divorcing Parents," Jennifer Wolf, accessed March 10, 2017