Summer gives you and your children a lot of opportunities. They have more free time, and you may decide to use it for trips, vacations, longer visits and more. This was true when you and your ex were married, and it’s still true even though you’re divorced.
Of course, the summer can also create more visitation drama. You and your ex both want those extended hours, trips, vacations and other alterations to the standard schedule that is so easy to follow during the school year.
To cut back on the drama, try to remember that requests don’t mean you’re guaranteed to get the time you want. If you plan on it and have your heart set on it, it hurts more when it doesn’t pan out. Take things one step at a time.
One of the biggest keys is to communicate well with your ex. Maybe you don’t like talking in person, but consider using the phone, text messages, email, social media and other options.
When two parents don’t communicate is when the biggest fights arise. You both plan a trip for the same weekend. Your ex just leaves and doesn’t tell you. You can’t get a hold of him or her, and you can’t get in touch with your children. You feel like your rights have been violated — and they may have been. All of this can be avoided, at times, through solid communication.
That being said, you need to know your legal options if your rights really have been violated. Your ex’s desires for summer vacation don’t trump your rights as a parent.
Source: L.A. Parent, “5 Tips to Lessen Summer Visitation Drama,” Casey Marticorena and Don Schweitzer, accessed May 03, 2017