In the pleasant community of St. Clair Shores, Michigan, parents often raise their children together in peaceful harmony. However, there are times when parents part ways, whether with a divorce ending a marriage or in a situation where they never got married in the first place. In those instances of parents parting and no longer living together, child custody has to be apportioned between them. That includes deciding which parent the children will be with on specific holidays.
How can that be done?
There are a number of ways to approach that. One is by alternating holidays on an every-other-year basis. With that structure, one parent might get Thanksgiving and the other parent might get Christmas in year one, and then in year two, they would switch. This guarantees that both parents will get some holidays with the children each year, and neither parent will miss any holiday with the children more than once in a two-year period.
What other options are there?
You can also split holidays in half. With that structure, one parent might get Thanksgiving morning and Christmas afternoon each year, while the other parent gets Thanksgiving afternoon and Christmas morning each year. The ways in which the holidays are split can be decided based on the traditions that each respective parent wants to share with the children. When presenting this to the children, both parents can communicate this in a way to get extra fun and gifts.
What if one parent cares about some holidays that the other parent does not care about?
Where that is the case, each respective parent can get to have the children with him or her on her favorite holidays each year. If both parents really value sharing all of the holidays with the children, the holidays can be doubled, which is also experienced as a benefit by the children. For example, Thanksgiving can be celebrated with one parent on a Thursday and then again with the other parent on a Saturday.
Source: CustodyXChange, "Making Your Holiday Visitation Schedule," accessed Nov. 08, 2017