Marriages in St. Clair Shores, Michigan, start with proposals, followed by beautiful weddings and then adventurous honeymoons. Some then have decades of domestic bliss. Others, however, end acrimoniously in divorce. Nationally, 40 to 50 percent of all marriages are ended when the husband or the wife files for divorce, and until death do they part becomes until court do they part. Recent research has shown that although December is the month with the lowest rate of divorce, January is the month with the highest rate of divorce.
The two rates may be related. When one marital partner wants a divorce, and make that decision in the autumn, they may delay it through the holidays in order to avoid ruining the holidays. Yet, as the holidays happen, they may experience time with their in-laws, with that time renewing their desire to divorce.
Unfortunately, this pattern of making nice over December holidays and then filing for divorce in January can really make the other marital partner feel like the divorce was filed for out of the blue. After all, across the holidays it seemed like everything was great and everyone was getting along. In fact, however, the marital partner who was planning on filing for divorce in January was simply putting on a happy face while counting the days.
On the other hand, the marital partner who is planning a divorce can use December holidays as a way to try to save the marriage. After all, those holidays will be a period in which they can spend more quality time with the person they are married to than is usually possible. The two of them can talk, try to reconnect and try to get their lives together back on a path that can be a source of happiness for both of them. In cases where there is no actual mistreatment of one by the other, efforts at reconciliation can be worth the effort. If it doesn’t work, you can call your attorney and start the divorce.
Source: WNEM, “Research: Divorces tend to spike in January,” Jonathan Jackson, Jan. 02, 2018