Couples with significant marital problems often seek out distractions to try to keep from discussing them. This is especially true when one of their problems is that they do not communicate very well in the first place.
Maybe they start engrossing themselves in hobbies on their own, such as reading books or playing video games. Maybe they “spend time together,” but all they really do is watch TV. Being able to focus on the show together means they do not actually have to have a conversation.
This is very common. The couples usually know that they have a troubled marriage. Distractions are not just a way to avoid talking about it, but they’re also a way to avoid the emotional turmoil of being in such a relationship. Watching TV gives you a temporary escape from reality; focusing on hobbies means you do not have to think about your life for the evening.
Marriage experts note that this does not work in the long run. Distractions do not solve those problems. Ignoring the issues does not make them go away. It may even just make them worse since you are allowing the issues to continue and build up momentum as you look the other way.
In the end, this could mean that the two of you find yourselves facing a divorce. Distractions cannot last forever. Eventually, whatever issues you’re facing — they’re different for every couple — are going to get big enough that the relationship cannot endure any longer. When this happens, make sure you take the time to fully understand the ins and outs of the divorce process.
Source: Live About, “7 Warning Signs Your Marriage May End in Divorce,” Cathy Meyer, accessed June 15, 2018