You worry that you will not have the same connection with your children after you and your spouse get divorced. You're more concerned about that than losing assets or even the end of your marriage itself.
There is good news. You can still connect with your kids in the wake of the split. You just need to be intentional about it. Below are a few things you can do:
- Pursue your children. Prioritize that relationship. Even when it cuts into your personal time, put them first.
- Find ways to stay connected even when you are not physically together. Write letters. Chat online. Call them up after school. Use FaceTime or Skype to chat on video.
- Embrace their interests. Show them that you care and spend time doing things that they love. Perhaps your son plays football or your daughter loves going hiking. Go to every football game. Take your daughter hiking and camping on the weekends. Do not worry about what you want to do.
- Remember that you'll see them less, so you need to make the most of every day with them. Do not waste your time. Engage with them, play with them and spend your time doing more than just having them watch TV while you do your own thing.
- Never insult your ex. That person is still their father or mother. Remember that their relationship is important. No matter how you feel, always be respectful.
Of course, it is also very important to understand your child custody rights and parental rights to ensure that you get proper time to spend with the kids.