It's hard to come to grips with the fact that your marriage is heading toward divorce, but if you find yourself in this situation there's no point in delaying the inevitable.
If you've tried everything and realize that divorce is the best solution, here are some steps you can take when discussing your feelings with your spouse:
- Prepare yourself. Asking for a divorce is difficult, so you must prepare yourself for every possible reaction.
- Choose the right time and place. It's best to leave plenty of time in your schedule for this conversation. Also, asking for a divorce in private is the right approach, as long as you don't have any concerns about your safety.
- Don't go back. Your spouse may ask you to reconsider, but if you're 100 percent sure that you want to divorce it's critical to stand your ground.
- Don't discuss the details. This isn't the best time to talk about property and debt division, child custody, child support and alimony. All of these details can be discussed in the future.
- Keep calm. Emotions are sure to run high during this conversation, so do your part in keeping things calm. Even if your spouse gets upset or angry, you shouldn't follow suit.
When you take these steps, you'll find it easier to ask your spouse for a divorce. With this out of the way, turn your attention to the divorce process and the steps you can take to protect your legal rights. The right approach from the start will give you peace of mind until you reach the end of your case.