It doesn't matter if you recently divorced or your marriage has been in the past for many years, co-parenting may be a big part of your life.
Despite your best intentions, there are times when you won't agree with your ex-spouse in regards to how to raise your children.
While there's no surefire way to avoid disagreements, here are some steps you can take to ease the tension:
- Be flexible with schedules: You want to follow your parenting and visitation agreement to the best of your ability, but you also need to remain flexible. There will be times when you or your ex needs to make a schedule change. Do your best to comply with your ex's requests.
- Find a way to communicate: It doesn't matter how you communicate with your ex, as long as you do so when necessary. You may find it easiest to do so over the phone. Or maybe you realize that text messaging and emails work better for your relationship.
- Don't stick your children in the middle: Divorce is difficult enough on your children. Don't stick them in the middle by bad-mouthing your ex or asking them questions about their other parent.
These co-parenting tips will help you ease the tension between you and your ex, thus putting everyone in a better situation.
If your ex neglects to cooperate, such as by ignoring the parenting agreement, speak with them about your concerns. This may be all it takes to get back on track.
In more serious cases, you may need to learn more about requesting a modification from the court.