If you and your spouse decide to divorce, it's important to turn your immediate attention to your children. Regardless of their age, your divorce will impact them in a variety of ways.
When the time comes to tell your children about your divorce, there are several steps you can take to ease the tension and start the healing process. It all starts with planning what you want to say. Here are some ways to approach the subject:
- Explain that you are going through a difficult time, and things aren't working out in your marriage.
- Tell your children that both you and your spouse love them, and that this won't change as the result of your divorce.
- Let your children know that your divorce has nothing to do with them.
- Tell your children that you'll do whatever it takes to provide a stable family environment in the future.
- Explain that divorce doesn't mean that you won't be a family in the future.
Regardless of what approach you take to talking to your children, expect them to have questions. This is particularly true if they're old enough to understand what's happening.
While you don't have to explain the details of your divorce, it's critical to answer every question that they pose to you.
Once you and your children are on the same page, it's easier to turn your attention to the divorce process and how to protect your legal rights. It's the steps you take from the beginning that will determine how the process unwinds in the future, both for you and your children.