You finally built up enough courage to ask your spouse for a divorce. While it was difficult, you have the conversation out of the way and you now can move forward with the legal process.
Of course, your work is just now beginning. In addition to all the steps you have to take, it’s a must that you also avoid common mistakes. Here are a few that could creep up on you:
- Saying too much: You’re tempted to ask your spouse about child custody, child support and property division. But if you do, it’s likely to cause more harm than good, as you probably won’t see eye to eye on all matters.
- Continuing to argue: Your spouse now knows that you want a divorce. There’s no secret. You don’t need to argue about anything that happened in the past. Soon enough, your marriage will be behind you and you can begin to build your new life. You don’t need arguments bogging you down during this difficult time.
- Neglecting your finances: Things are changing quickly, so you need to get your finances in order. For example, create a budget that will allow you to maintain your standard of living after your divorce.
- Neglecting your children: You need to be there for your children, as they’ll have just as much trouble with divorce as you (if not more). Ask and answer questions, make yourself available and be sure to carefully monitor their behavior.
By avoiding these mistakes after asking for a divorce, you better position yourself to deal with the finer details of the legal process.