When it’s clear that your marriage is on the rocks, you may turn your attention to the divorce process. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to move down this path just yet, but it’s on your radar.
If you eventually decide to ask for a divorce, you must consider the impact it’ll have on your children. Here’s what you should do:
- Be honest: Explain the basics of divorce, as well as it what it means to their future. Keep their age in mind when doing so, as you don’t want to “talk above them” and cause additional confusion.
- Tell them they’ll still get to spend time with both parents: Your children may have concerns about seeing both of you, now that you won’t be living in the same home. As long as you know that your ex-spouse will stay involved, you can confidently share this.
- Be open to answering their questions: Don’t make your children feel as if you’re rushing through the conversation. Let them know it’s okay to experience a variety of emotions. And also make it clear that you’re available to answer their questions, no matter what’s on their mind.
When you take this approach to telling your children about divorce, you can ease their mind and help them deal with the change.
Once you feel good about where your children stand, it’s easier to turn your focus to the divorce process. This allows you to better deal with issues such as property and debt division, child custody, child support and spousal support.
Divorce can sometimes feel like a marathon, so it’s critical to prepare accordingly.