If you get married thinking about what might happen if you get divorced, most people would argue you're doing it wrong. But if you are planning on having children, there are few precautions too extreme for the health and happiness of young lives in your charge.
One of the stickiest parts of divorce is the fate of a marriage's children. Even if divorce is amicable and not as emotionally charged as it could be, parents are often possessive about their children and loathe to share custody and decision-making abilities with former partners and family members.
Michigan's top law enforcement agency recently sharpened their efforts to keep parents accountable for taking care of their children. Failure to pay court-ordered child support or alimony can land a person in jail, which happened to more than 60 people across the Wolverine State over a single day in September 2018.
Most people might believe their ex-spouses and the parents of their children are unintelligent, but what if the other parent has a severe cognitive impairment? For example, what if a parent has suffered brain damage, is mentally incapacitated or has a medical condition that has led to mental problems? Is it possible that a Michigan court could rule that the parent is unfit to care for his or her child?
When figuring out your child custody plan during a divorce, one thing you need to consider is the role of vacation time. This does not necessarily mean time that you want to take the kids on vacation -- you may need to clear that with your ex -- but time that the children themselves get scheduled breaks from school.
Parents often make schedules when they get divorced, basing them on the children's needs at that current age. It is important for them to realize that these needs may change over time. Even if the parents feel like essentially the same people 10 years in the future, their children may feel like very different people indeed.
You worry that you will not have the same connection with your children after you and your spouse get divorced. You're more concerned about that than losing assets or even the end of your marriage itself.
Supervised visitation means that while you still do get to see your child, you do not get to do so alone. A third party must be with you through the entire visit. Sometimes, this is your ex, but it could also be a social worker.
You have probably heard people say that joint physical custody is best for the kids. They still get to see both parents. The parents share the responsibilities and also get time off. For the kids, it's the closest thing to still living in a home with two married parents.
How much is your child really going to cost you? Do not think of just the hospital bills or the changes to your monthly budget. What is the overall cost going to look like after your child moves out?