Marriage is one of the most ancient institutions in the human experience. Nearly all cultures accepted that people can choose to bond to each other for the purposes of creating a family and home in all of recorded history. The traditional officiant of these marriages has been the church, but the state has stepped in over the last decades.
Although love and devotion are the roots of the impulse to marry, the act of joining two people in matrimony is a contract with legal implications. There are a variety of reasons that married people may have had enough of the institution or their partners in it, and some of them don't have anything to do with problems in the relationship.
If married people in Michigan are looking to divorce, they are probably in some agreement on why but may not be so much in sync on how. For many divorcing couples, their life savings and any other assets they have are wrapped up in their legal status, so divorce becomes more than emotional independence.
A study of divorced residents in each major U.S. city based on census data yielded specific results by specific areas. The study identified Ishpeming, a city in Marquette County near the shores of Lake Huron, as the "divorce capital" of Michigan. More than 20 percent of the marriage-age adults in the municipality were divorced at the time of the study.
No one starts the process of getting married with much of a thought to the process of getting divorced. But divorce is always likely enough to consider because the consequences of ignoring it are grave. Some lawyers recommend a prenuptial agreement to help guide expectations in that case, although some also have reservations about recommending it.
Maybe something big happened at once, or maybe it feels like it's been happening for years. Either way, it's hard to see the future when you're going through a separation. The lawyers may already be hashing out who gets the house and where the kids will live, but even if a lot of the work falls on you, you owe it to yourself to stay calm and keep control of your life.
The institution of marriage has changed a little over the centuries, but not as much as the implications and methods of divorce. As the rate of marriages ending before death rose above half in the United States, more types of people could file for divorce and expect to rebuild their lives afterward. In some jurisdictions, it is getting even easier.
It's hard to get divorced even before splitting homes, cash, child custody and other assets and responsibilities. But some shared things can be more complicated to split. One of the most complicated assets to manage or split is an individual retirement account (IRA), due to the tax implications involved.
Few parents find it easy to discipline their children. But problems of moody teenagers and setting reasonable curfews can be compounded when parents are not on the same side.
It's often hard to know where to start when someone is separating from their spouse. Any children of a marriage are the natural first priority, as their futures are precious and they have no fault in a divorce. Property and assets are often the next issues and then there is the natural emotional effect of the end of a relationship.